Okay, so as the word is spreading about our adoption, here are the two things that I am hearing pretty regularly.
1. "Oh, can you guys not have anymore kids?" As far as I know we are perfectly capable of having more children naturally, and we might even decide to do that someday. Who knows! Just because someone adopts, it doesn't mean that they can't have more biological children. And even if they couldn't, is that a question you should really be asking? It might be a bit painful for the couple.
2. "Oh, now you don't have to throw up for nine months again!" Yes, my pregnancy with Connor was less than ideal. As a matter of fact, as my friend Mandy says, there is probably a reason I threw up for nine months. With my personality type (I am a control freak, impatient, and selfish) the complete opposite of what adoption requires, I would have probably had a harder time softening my heart to the idea if having Connor had been a breeze. BUT............nine months of throwing up and two and a half hours of drug-free pushing to deliver a 10 pound baby is NOTHING in comparison to the journey we have ahead. We have to wait THREE to FOUR years with unbelievable patience and put quite a financial strain on ourselves to bring this little girl into our family. But without any doubt in my being, this is what we're being called to do.
These comments are amusing to me because these would have totally been my thoughts a month ago if I was on the outside looking in! It's amazing how much can change in a short time.
Monday, April 30, 2007
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2 comments:
I think it's awesome that you guys are adopting, and I also think it weird that people ask about your fertility whrn you announce the adoption. Congratulations, and you and your girl will have my prayers during this long wait.
KAtie
Since we first announced we would adopt i don't know how many people have looked at us lovingly as if they were so sorry for us that we couldn't have our own kids. We actually can, it would be risky, but we can. We have kind of gotten in the habit, two adoptions later, of saying, "Although we could have our own kids, there are just too many kids out there that need us, and we are CHOOSING to adopt." We still get weird looks, they just don't feel sorry for us anymore.
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